I am exhausted. I really am. How about you all? At our session meeting Tuesday night, Pastor Osy read a passage describing one author’s exhaustion. The writer couldn’t understand what was making her so exhausted since she was working from home. She realized that it was grief. She went on to describe cumulative grief. That is what we are experiencing now: cumulative grief. All of the losses that we are experiencing from COVID-19, the changes in routine, loss of social connection, loss of church in person, no parties, dining out (although that is starting to change now), the loss of safety and confidence in our health. Add to that the social justice issues, the current political environment, the fact it is an election year and the current huge polarization of Americans. All of these things are cumulative. One does not cancel out any of the others. Dealing with all the emotions around this is tough. Many I speak with feel guilty that they are blessed. One can be grateful and still suffer. It is not a binary equation.
How do we ground ourselves in a time of such uncertainty and grief?
We were reminded to try a contemplative prayer. Take some time to sit in silence before God. No need to think, ask or do anything. Don’t try to impress or earn or say the right thing. Just be with God. Be present in the love of God. This is one of the best ways to start your day. It is grounding and calming. It takes some practice to quiet our minds and nervous systems but just being with God and in God’s love is a healing experience. We could all use some healing about now. Until next time, eat healthy, be happy and wash your hands!
Lynn O’Hara, MS, RD, LPC, Licensed Psychotherapist and Registered Dietitian