“Generosity is a condition of the heart, not the wallet.” What does this mean to you personally when you read those words? Generosity to loved ones? To ourselves? To those less fortunate? Or maybe, perhaps, toward those we don’t really care for? To all? And generosity of what? There are many ways to be generous and not all have to do with money. In this season of gratitude and giving, asking what that statement means to us can be a bit eye opening. In our divisive world, I am trying to be generous in my compassion and curiosity to those who hold very different views and values from myself. It doesn’t cost me a cent but oh, it is hard. There are things said and done that I just don’t understand yet I think the people who I say this about hold the very same conviction and passion around their views that I do for mine. How do we bridge this gap? With generosity of heart to listen and engage in meaningful conversation with those who hold differing views. When it comes right down to it, most of us want the same basic things – love, connection, safety, to be heard and valued and to be able to pay our bills. Some of us just have very different views of how to get there.
So, in this season of gratitude, let’s be generous in any way we can be and let’s be grateful for all we do have. Until next time, stay well and get vaccinated!
Lynn O’Hara, MS, RD, LPC, Licensed Psychotherapist and Registered Dietitian